I have to
share this moment with you guys:
As you
probably read over the weekend, I learned that my car was involved in a freak
accident while in the shop for several days. Apparently, the car was being
housed inside of the shop in the evenings, and while opening the facility one
morning, something went wrong, as a mechanics followed his normal routine of
opening the bay doors. One of the doors, apparently serviced in the wake of
Hurricane Isaac, malfunctioned; the door slipped off of its track, twisted the metal
frames, shattered the glasses windows, and dropped down onto my car. No one
mentioned this mishap to me, but after I paid for the services on Saturday, I
discovered dozens of gashes and scratches on the car. To this, the lead service
writer contended that they never noticed any damage, but he conceded that they
would take full responsibility. When he said that he would prepare the
paperwork on Monday, I insisted that he do it immediately, and he complied. I
left the vehicle on the lot, so as not to complicate the matter, and I finally
went back to pick it up on Monday, only after an insurance adjustor took a look
at it. That should have been the end of it, right? My next stop should have
been a body shop for cosmetic repairs, right? Wrong.
I got into
the car, and when I attempted to drive it down the road, I noticed that the
very same shuttering and spiked RPMs that originally led me to the shop were
still happening. I went right back to the mechanics with the car, and with a
stoic expression, the same service writer said, “Well, that sounds to us like
you have a problem with your transmission.” I was incredulous. If that is why I
brought the car for service, why the hell would these guys make it a point to
tell me that the problem was something other than that, and then proceed to
charge me over $1,000 for something they knowingly suspected was not the
problem? Anger, as a concept, barely encapsulated what was beginning to feel.
In fact, I was so pissed that I wanted to just “hulk out” on everyone and
everything that got in my path, but I struggled like crazy to keep it
contained.
“EQ, Gary,”
I kept telling myself. “I just have to have positive EQ.” But that was a little
difficult for me. Not even a conversation with Adam Pfeiffer about business was
enough to shift my thoughts from the fact that I had been ripped off, that my
car had been damaged, and that I still had to put the car into the shop for the
same worrisome problem. Again, anger, as a concept, was simply not enough to
describe what I felt.
I did try to
put the emotions aside, though, and I took a call from the office. Apparently,
a lady who was not a client had called multiple times with a question about whether
to register as an LLC or S-corp, and so, I decided to return her call. After I
explained the legal and tax structures of both entities, which might have took
all of ten minutes, the lady—a stranger—said that she understood, and she
thanked me for taking the time to call her back. She added that the office
manager had explained that I was having car troubles, and she said, “I can tell
by your voice that whatever happened is pretty distressing.” At first, I only
laughed, saying, “You have no idea.” But then a conversation ensued that
changed everything.
The lady and
I talked for an hour and fifteen minutes, moving from topics about the
unscrupulous behavior of some so-called professionals to the changes in our society’s
values. She went on to tell me, out of nowhere it seems, that she could tell
that I had a calling to do the work that I do, and that even our own brief chat
about her question had been more of a blessing to her than a simple expression
of knowledge. I was a little confused as I thought back on how this
conversation had gotten to such a point, and I could not help but to wonder
where all of this was going. And then she told me.
Towards the
end of the discussion, the lady on the phone talked about being a mother of
three who aspired to instill solid values into her own children, and that she
thought that she’d done a decent job, what with one in law school and the
others two already in professional careers. She said that, as a parent and a
Christian, she could tell that my own parents had done a great job with me, and
that God had a calling on my life. Then she went into the biblical tale of
Gideon’s fleece.
Gideon was a
man commanded by God to free the people of Israel and purge the land of false
idols, but as a man, Gideon lacked a degree of certitude about his mission. He
asked God for a sign. The following passage was his request:
Gideon said to God, “If You will save
Israel by my hand as you have promised—look, I will place a wool fleece on the
threshing floor. If there is dew only on the fleece and all the ground is dry,
then I will know that You will save Israel by my hand, as You said.” (Judge
6:36 & 37, NIV)
And so it
was that God fulfilled that request, confirming His intentions to a leery
Gideon.
I knew,
right then, what was up. I had never questioned the axiom that God places
people in our paths for a reason, and on this call, on the one day when I came
closest than ever to letting emotion get the best of me, God used this woman, a
total stranger, to remind me that He was still there and still in charge. As I
realized that, the lady said, “I can tell you have a good heart. God wants you
to keep it that way.” To that, I could not say a word; I honestly just took a
deep breath and shed tears.
Today,
following yesterday’s fiasco, I have a different disposition. I need to get up
off the mat and take control of the situation. I know that, while not a perfect
man, I am still a good man aspiring for excellence by His Will, and I have been
given the strength and the intellect to overcome even this challenge without
losing my cool about it. After all, given some of the messes with which I have
to contend daily, if this is the biggest one that I have to face for the next
two weeks—even if it is a personal one—then I am doing pretty good.
In a month
or so, this will all be history, but I should not forget it. I needed a moment
like this to remind me of just how important it is to maintain my temperament
and character, even in the face of the unexpected. And I also needed to be
reminded that God is always with us, and that He will use even the most random
of strangers to speak the words of hope and encouragement that we need to hear.
We simply have to be willing to listen.
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1 comment:
I love how eloquently you get pissed off. Just picking, dude. It'll work out, I hope.
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